Tough Love: A Psychologist Explains When It`s Good to Make Others Feel Bad
(WorldNews Politics)

Studies show that making someone feel badly can be useful. Imagine that someone you care about is procrastinating in advance of a vital exam. If he fails the test, he will not be able to go to university, an eventuality of major consequence in his life. If positive encouragement doesn´t work, you might reverse strategy, making your friend feel so bad, so worried, so scared, that the only strategy left is that he starts studying like mad. Sometimes, the only way to help someone seems to be a cruel or nasty approach - a strategy that may leave the `helper´ feeling guilty and wrong. Now researchfrom my team at the Liverpool Hope University in the UK sheds light on how the process works. We...